You may have noticed a lack of mention of the dreaded S & BIL lately. This is because I have been avoiding them. (Like the plague, a big angry negative hateful plague) It is definitely mutual, although I'm not sure exactly what their beef with me is, I imagine it has something to do with me being judgmental (since I have heard that one before) and maybe, just maybe, I'm thinking they happened upon this little tid bit of blog anti-love because I'm sure that could happen too.
The only problem with avoiding them and being avoided by them is that I really would like to be a part of my niece's lives. I would like to be the happy sunshine person in their life who doesn't tell them to go away they have no parents, and that they have shit brown eyes or got the ugly hair.
Sometime last November the husband got a (nasty according to me) email from the SIL asking what the boys wanted for Hanukkah also stating that they would not buy Evan any weapons. Well guess what Evan had on his Hanukkah list! Weapons, video games with weapons, and more weapons. When the husband forwarded that email he got from them to me I never replied. Why bother? The whole sentiment behind it just made me nauseous. I felt like writing back that I wouldn't get her girls any gifts that are pink or are degrading and oppressive to women. You know what I mean! I'd be the first one to take down some old lady vying for some new sold out Barbie if I knew it was going to make my niece the happiest kid on the block. Jeez.
So, I finally swallowed my pride and suggested to the husband that he phone his sister and make arrangements for a little gift exchange/get together. He remembered that his sis and family went somewhere on vacation (The next time she tells me how broke they are I am so going to say something judgmental!) so I have a few more days to work up another ulcer over the whole painful ordeal, because really, in the scheme of my life right now, I don't need to be hanging around with lying game playing people, but dammit, they are related to me.
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