Oh, Finslippy, there is no easy way to deal with this.
Last summer, after years of questionable symptoms and inconclusive testing, my mother went to the Mayo Clinic to get to the bottom of her chest pains. It turns out she has a huge blockage between her hearts chambers. Two of three specialists thought open heart surgery was in order, the surgeon said he wouldn't touch her, she was not healthy enough to survive the surgery. They shuffled her medications and sent her home to clean up her diet and lifestyle. She did, she eats better, does some water exercises, lost weight and seems so much better, except the blockage is still there. So we wait. Wait and see if it will hopefully resolve itself, wait and see if she has a heart attack, or wait and see if she will be healthy enough to survive the surgery that could extend her life. Waiting is so hard. It's the hardest part.
My hopes and prayers are with your dad and you.
Clickmom
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