In a world where we are all surrounded by liars (might need a break from politics) I find it amusing when I am stopped dead in my tracks by a lie.I mean, but now I should just expect every word out of certain people's mouths to be a lie. Fool me once! Or more accurately YOU HAVEN'T FOOLED ME YET! WHY KEEP TRYING? This latest incident happened when my niece, the daughter of the husband's sister, called me the other day. In an effort to plant a motivating seed in her brain I wondered out loud to her if she and her sister might be the first in their direct line to graduate from college. I know the husband told me early on that his sister did not graduate from college but I was unsure of their father's status. I thought perhaps he had not finished college to go into the family business, but I wondered if I might be mixing him up with my own sister's husband.
Then my niece told me her mom did graduate from college.
And that stopped me dead in my tracks.
Either, the husband did not know that his sister attended and graduated from college or she's lying.
So, I went online and checked the website of the college she claims to have graduated from. I checked the year she should have graduated and also the following year and she isn't in the yearbook. Now, I had a blast scrolling through those old yearbooks, reliving the days of crazy fashion, big hair and hairspray, but aside from my rather pleasant trip down memory lane, why lie??? We all know how I feel about liars, no time for that shit, and now I look like the awful mean vindictive aunt for blowing her lie when I was trying to be the kind and encouraging aunt. MF. I can not win.
Also, what does it mean when someone rewrites their past like that? It's a bad sign, isn't it? I'm guessing a healthy person would tell her kid, You know what? I didn't graduate from college, I always wished I did, and I'm going to do everything in my power to make sure you get to. Right?? Isn't that how it should go?
I'm so tired of crazy lying people.
I'm so tired of a lot of things. Like rape-y nominees for the supreme court. Seriously? We are getting a likely alcoholic/most definitely sexual offender for a supreme court justice? Where are the morals? Have we really sunk this low? Does no GOP member wonder what history will have to say about their actions?
Living with someone who has lost the ability to care is wearing on me. I try to instruct the husband to just say things like "Yeah" or "Good point" or even "I hear you" when I'm off on a rage rant over whatever the hell thing trump and the other russian agents are doing to undermine this country and the husband just cannot summon any emotion to care, or even respond as if he does. He was never good at following directions, hard to believe he had a brief stint as a highly functioning adult. Those were the days, though I am starting to question just how highly functioning he was back then. I may have overestimated him.
I did watch the testimony of Dr. Ford and Brett The (attempted) Rapist the other day. I totally totally get why so many people are feeling triggered by it and am so incredibly thankful to this day and every day for the rest of my life for the wonderful care I got from my Dad's old man friend freudian therapist who helped me to not be in a place where the assaults on me from my youth would affect me by crippling me as an adult. I truly don't feel as if I carry trauma around with me every day. I do have the memories and do acknowledge that every event makes an impression on a person. But I don't walk around from day to day with fears, anger or guilt or even shame and for that I owe a lot to that old man shrink, who did right by an 18 year old girl in distress.