Evan at Matt were pretty much at each other's throats all #$%^& day today. This is not typical and I do not handle it well. It was exhausting for me, especially since I was toting grandma around too. Having her along requires the same amount of concentration that having a toddler who likes to bolt does, so I find that I am extra demanding of the kids when she is in tow, they need to be perfect. They weren't perfect. Since they were already snippy with each other from the moment they opened their eyes this morning by the time we picked up grandma and I announced that it was a summer clothes shopping expedition day snippy turned into bickering turned into going too far turned into pushing my limits. There were rough squeezes and finger bending, there was making the noise that drives your brother crazyX10, there was too much know-it-alling going on, and everything possibly else which could cause an otherwise patient as a saint and mild mannered mother like me to LOSE IT.
Then we went out to dinner with Boops and her kids. And the kids (she has one for Matt and one for EV) wanted to have a sleep over. I said YES, initially. Because things appeared to have blown over. Until the my kids began to bicker bicker bicker and that whole last straw camel's back thing happened to me. Then Matt did something WRONG and I said his sleep over was cancelled. Then Evan did something EVIL and I said his sleep over was cancelled. Then Evan glared at me through his eyebrows for a full 15 minutes. And it was so hard not to laugh at that face that it broke some of the tension for me and I asked Evan if he would like to plead his case for a chance at getting his sleep over back. Every one left Evan and me alone in the restaurant, because we had just paid for the meal, and I told Evan he could have a sleep over if he admitted he was looking for trouble all day and apologized for the behavior. He said (12 times) "It's not my fault!" because Matt was MAKING him. You see, dear readers, nothing is ever Evan's fault because his wrong doings are always some sort of befitting reaction to a much higher crime perpetrated by some other more criminal type individual and therefore more deserving of punishment type individual. I had to explain to Evan how he had created and participated in today's bad situation. Eventually he kind of relented and in a very vague lop sided way said a little bit of what I asked him to say. I considered this 1/2 admission of guilt to be a tiny little victory. I said he could have his sleep over back. We went outside where every one was waiting for us and I turned to Matt and asked him if he would like to plead his case for a chance at getting his sleep over. Matt said "I would, but I was behaving badly today." He then got his sleep over back too.